And yet you also seem eager to use the concept of forgiveness in order to sweep this episode under the rug, mainly to ease your own discomfort. You seem to believe his account of what happened. I think you should examine your own motives for basically wanting this to go away. This defiance and denial does not lay the groundwork toward forgiveness and reconciliation.
Sexual aggressors rarely own up to their behavior or acknowledge the devastating impact on others. Forgiveness cannot be forced through the pressure of a third party.įurthermore, this family member has not explained, acknowledged or apologized for this incident in fact, he is aggressively denying it. Dear Mother: You should not ask me how your son should forgive this family member who propositioned him.
